Life has a funny way of reaching a seemingly dramatic fork where we are too easily resigned to say it’s too late for action. My marriage is too broken, my friend is too angry, my reputation is too far shattered. My debt is too overwhelming, my addiction is too powerful, my weight gain is too demoralizing. It takes a lot of courage to get to the end of that road, realize it’s a dead end, and turn around.
Insert your shiny life quote here. Something about one foot in front of the other, or one step back for two forward. Something funny about finding out what you don’t like to know what you do. Do whatever, but do something. And do it right now. The moment you think you’ve done in repairable damage, that there isn’t enough time to make things right, I urge you to resist the temptation to do nothing. If you’re anything like how I used to be, the only treatment you know works well is the silent type. Somewhere between the hurt and betrayal, you’ll let time for action come and go because you’re thinking there’s nothing that will help. Whether we are the cause, or the recipient of it, it has become too acceptable to say it’s too late. I can’t possibly make things right can I? What if I told you that you were wrong.
When you make the assumption that it’s all up to you to make it right, you aren’t accurately taking into account how the other person or persons will respond with your actions and changes. Acting as if the story is all about you makes for a lonely adventure. Here is the reality check: Making a situation too late for action is not about you, but the other persons response to action. You see, if you take no action at all, you don’t give the other person a chance to respond if it’s too late or not. It is in their response when “It’s too late” becomes the result. But either way, it’s not up to you. Or your action for that matter. It’s up to whether or not an action was made.
I started off this post with several areas that I’ve personally experienced times of non-action. Critical points where I put myself in the center of the story instead of my wife, my friends, my co-workers, among others. I decided it was best for me that no action was needed, and it was a mistake. Would it have mattered had I taken action, eliminated the thought of action being too late to save the situation? Probably not, but that’s not what matters. I’ll never get an opportunity to make it right if an action isn’t taken. So make one today. Take action in areas of your life where you think it’s too late. Today is the right time, today is a perfect opportunity to take that action. Make yesterday your last use of the phrase “It’s too late.”